Being cheated on is the worst thing that can happen to someone. It shatters the sanctity of the relationship along with their trust.
In fact, it affects some people so much they are never able to confide in someone ever again.
If you have or are on the verge of finding out that your other half is cheating on you, be prepared to hear these 10 things cheaters say when confronted:
1. Nothing Is Going On
“Hey, you’re wrong, nothing is going on…” is one of the most common sentences cheaters use.
Confronting without proof can lead to the complete denial of the act. In fact, they may spin it on you and declare you as a non-trusting and insecure person.
They will make you doubt yourself and come up with allegations. In the end you will come out as a bad person.
In some very exceptional cases, the cheating partner is consumed with so much guilt that he or she may confess without the slightest hint of proof. However, such cases are rare.
This is why it is best to find proof before you decide to confront your partner.
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2. It Was All In The Past
“ It is over now…” is a cheater’s way of confessing.
It is among the most common phrases that a cheater utters when caught cheating.
The truth is that your partner might be honest here.
People have affairs that do not go on forever. If your partner says he or she is over the entire thing, you must remain calm and look at things from a neutral perspective.
In such a situation, it becomes more about wanting or not wanting to continue a relationship.
3. It Wasn’t Sexual
This is a cheater’s way of making things right.
Some people believe it is okay to have an affair if it does not involve sex.
According to experts, being emotionally connected to someone else is also cheating. Your partner deserves all your love and care.
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Even if your partner did not have sexual relationships with the other person, he or she went ahead and got involved. This means he or she may cheat on you in the future.
4. I Was Seduced
“It wasn’t my mistake, I was seduced,” is a cheater’s way of blaming the other person.
If they loved you enough, they would never have been drawn to that other person.
This means they are weak and insecure and desperately seek approval from others.
It can be very difficult to be in a relationship with someone who can be easily seduced.
You should be with a partner who gives you security. You do not want to be in a relationship where you are in constant fear of being cheated on.
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5. I am Sorry I Made a Mistake
After they have admitted to having cheated on you they apologize and beg for forgiveness.
Some apologies are honest while some are not. You need to pay attention to their words and feelings and decide if they are worth forgiving.
Believe it or not, some relationships can survive infidelity. It depends on how strongly you feel for each other and what kind of relationship you share.
If you think there is still love between the two of you and you can move on from the situation then consider moving the person.
6. It Is All Your Fault
A lot of people like to blame the other person for their roving eye. This is surprisingly a common behavior.
“You don’t love me anymore…”
“You have no time for me….”
“You are always busy….” are some commonly used sentences.
Remember that people cheat because they want. It is never your fault.
Do not let what they say affect you as blaming yourself will lead to depression and sadness.
Whatever the circumstances, remember it was their decision to cheat.
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7. I Will Change I Promise
Some people regret because they got caught, some regret because they realize the severity of the situation.
If the person promises to change then it’s time to have a conversation and decide what went wrong the first time.
If your partner is a habitual cheater then it is best to think a lot before you give your relationship another try.
Habitual cheaters will go back to cheating when they get a chance to.
8. I Was Unhappy in The Relationship
A lot of people are in unhappy relationships. If you’re in such a situation, it is best to break up and start a new life. A bad or unhappy relationship does not justify cheating.
Also, if your partner confesses it then it is based to end the relationship.
You should not be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t appreciate you. It will lead to more problems and the relationship will not go anywhere.
9. It Didn’t Mean Anything
“It was just a one night stand….”
“We were both drunk…”
“I don’t even remember her…” are a cheater’s way to say it didn’t mean anything.
Your partner might be telling the truth but to move forward you must address the issue.
Discuss how it happened and who the other person was. Was it a colleague or a random friend or a hooker? Getting answers to such questions will help you decide where to take your relationship.
10. It Was Just Sexual
“We weren’t having enough sex so I had to cheat…”
“I wanted to try something new….”
“I don’t love her/him, I just needed sex…” are sentences used by cheaters to highlight a lack of emotional depth.
Sex is a need and one of the major reasons why people cheat but it cannot justify cheating. Whether sexual or emotional, it is not acceptable for one person to have a relationship with another while dating someone.
What to Do After the Confrontation
Now that you know about the things cheaters say, it will be easier to make a decision.
Decide where you want to take the relationship. Make boundaries if you intend to continue the relationship so that things do not again go out of hands.
However, if you have decided to end the relationship, then make sure to be strong and find distractions so that you do not feel sad or lonely.